Will you be making New Year Resolutions and will you keep them? I just came across a reference as to the challenge we face from “Yesterday, I Cried” by Iyanla Vanzant (autobiography)
“Often when you are on the spiritual path, there is a war that goes on between the person you once were and the person you are becoming. Some call it ‘thought patterns’. Others call it ‘habit’. My experience was that there were two distinct personalities needing to be integrated. I discovered that the older you are, the more difficult it is to accomplish a smooth integration.
The old you, the one who helped you survive, the one that was there for you in rough times, is going to fight to stay alive. The old you knows your secrets and your history. The old you knows your defense mechanisms, what you will do when your buttons are pushed, and exactly where your weaknesses lie. The old you knows what works for you and is terrified of trying anything new. The old you is comfortable with the way things were and are. The old you wants to stay in control. The old you has home-court advantage.
The new you, the spiritually conscious, spiritually grounded you, is fumbling around trying to find out what works now. It is the part of you yet to be proven. You may believe strongly, you may want deeply to change, and for your newfound identity to emerge. But your new you is not quite sure it will work. It is there, in that glimmer of doubt, that the old you goes to work. It nags at you. It challenges you. It is called self-doubt and lame excuses. It looks like not having time to pray, to meditate, and not being able to figure out how to put food on the table. The new you views problems as challenges, knowing that with every problem comes the solution, the escape, the way out. The new you is willing to confront challenges and wants to do so in a spiritually grounded way. When, however, the new you is backed up to a wall, it will out of habit, borrow from the old you. The instant borrowing occurs, the new you is rendered dead – even if only for a moment. The challenge is that when the new you is brought back into focus, there is a pile of old you crap that needs to be cleaned up. You cannot create a new being in one day. You have to deal with what went before and become healed before facing new challenges”
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Wishing you a Happy New Year and successful 2011.